A Death in the Night, and Pause for Thought
This morning I arrived work to a disturbing piece of
news. “A pedestrian got killed by a car
last night in . . . .” Our complex is
home to a fleet of emergency ambulances and we hear lots of things, but deaths
still stand out.
“She used to live at the State School,” and “I remember
seeing her cross the street with her cat on a leash. Inside a cat carrier box. Just pulling it along behind her.” “She would just walk out in front of cars,
and I guess one finally got her.” Later, comments following a newspaper article
would describe her as eccentric, and “Our town’s most famous pedestrian.”
I perked my ears up at that, because the Belchertown State School
was where teachers threatened to send me, forty years earlier, when I failed to
meet their behavioral expectations. The
State School was a nasty place, a school in name only; a nasty warehouse for autistic and intellectually disabled people.
That reflection and the news story made me wonder . . . was
the person who was killed autistic? I
have no idea, but the way her story was presented gave me pause for thought.
When a young autistic person is hit by a car, parents furnish the headlines,
which usually read something like this: “Autistic
teen killed by car in terrible accident.”
The danger of wandering is often cited.
When researchers gather statistics on wandering deaths they
look for headlines like that, and tally them up. But what happens to the autistic people who
get old, and have no parents to tell their story when they step in front of
traffic? People in the community shake their
heads, and remember their eccentricity.
Some remember the institution where they used to live. The headlines are noncommittal; “Pedestrian
killed in late night crash.”
The cause could be anything.
That story made me realize two things:
The role of autism and developmental difference in deaths of adults with disabilities is almost certainly significantly underreported when older people don’t have
parents or others to present that part of the story. Children "die from wandering." Older people are just one more casualty, "hit by a car."
Parents who are concerned that their autistic child will
walk in front of a car someday are right to be worried about what may happen
when they are gone. Many of us remain
oblivious to cars and other dangers our whole lives, and for some, life is cut
short as a result. Yet our freedom is precious, and not likely taken away or constrained, even when it leads us into danger.
Wandering presents the autism community with a difficult
moral dilemma. Autistic advocates argue
that the “wandering” some parents call out is really an effort to satisfy curiosity
or escape a stressful situation. While
that is surely true some of the time, what if the person’s escape takes them
into the path of an oncoming car?
We’ve discussed this more than once at IACC, without seeing
any good solutions. Tracking devices don’t
prevent people from falling in water or dying in roadways. Locks present a whole host of problems as a
type of restraint. Supervision sounds like
a good answer, but very expensive and frankly impractical on a 24/7 basis.
At some point, most cognitively disabled people are either
left unsupervised in the community, or they end up in a group home, jail or
some other form of institutionalization.
Many die early from accident or neglect.
And of those deaths, the contribution of cognitive disability to the
premature mortality (for whatever reason) surely often goes overlooked.
In the case that caught my eye, the headline simply said, “Woman
struck and killed by car.”
Would you – as a reader – have felt different if the
headline had said, Intellectually disabled woman . . ., or, Autistic woman . .
.?
I think the addition of either of those words would have
implied a connection between cognitive disability and the death. They would give readers pause for thought,
and perhaps make people think that some of the folks wandering the streets are
more vulnerable to unwittingly step in front of a car than others.
But who would add the words?
The sad truth is, many cognitively disabled people live lonely lives,
and at the end, there may be no one to tell our story.
I believe we have a duty to protect the vulnerable members
of our society. At the same time, I understand
the feelings of those who say we should not have a duty to protect against
stupidity. It’s a matter of
context. People rightly object when our
Coast Guard spends thousands to rescue drunken boaters. The rescue of children and cognitively
disabled people is a very different story because they do not “know better,”
and often cannot help themselves.
If you agree with me, give some thought to the
question. Where do you think people
with cognitive disabilities should live as adults? If you agree the community is best, how might
we protect people while still respecting free choice and self determination? Can we, and should we
even try? Does the protection we extend
to children just run out at some point in adulthood?
These are difficult ethical questions and they don’t have
easy answers.
The opinions expressed here are his own. There is no warranty expressed or implied. While reading this essay will give you food for thought, actually printing and eating it may make you sick.
Comments
I'm not satisfied that tracking devices have been satisfactorily tried. If Avonte's law had passed congress, we might be seeing significantly fewer deaths from drowning or being hit by a car of developmentally disabled people. The neurodiversity movement you support has crusaded against all of these things that could help parents protect their seriously DD kids from tragic deaths, though admittedly, nothing is going to present these deaths 100% until the unlikely event of a cure happening soon.
I spent time in a "hospital/school". I had severe depression at the time, and their solution to my depression was not to treat depression, but to try to fix me. Treating me as a failed version of "normal". All of my problems would magically vanish if I could just satisfy what they expected of me. This just made things worse, it was when my suicidal ideations began.
There were a few dangerous environments, and I would find myself lingering in dangerous spots, hoping for a release from that environment. But it backfired on me, as they just assumed I was oblivious, so they stepped up the efforts. Thankfully my parents pulled me out of their when they realized I was declining.
The one thing I never see discussed in wandering deaths or drownings is the possibility of suicide to escape a similar psychological environment. For me being diagnosed as a child simply meant being treated that way my entire life, having no value because I was not "Fixed" enough. Even when it came from my most well intentioned doctors, it was devastating and they didn't have the slightest clue that it was.
The problem I continue to see is that Autistic psychology is scarcely even recognized and therefor neglected. A suicide is treated as just a tragic "trait of Autism" and can't possibly be anything else despite all the lessons we've learned from treating other minorities this way. The focus always remains on the physical, yet even the most physically "fit" successful famous person can be brought down by the psychological.
The point I'm getting at it, is that suicide can not be ruled out when it comes to an environment like that, be it institute or institutionalized home. You wouldn't be able to make the distinction between being oblivious and wanting to die to escape.
Institutions, quite rightly, are becoming fewer, but there doesn't appear to be any coherent plan for the future of kids like mine.
Perhaps I'll just have to do what a friend of mine plans on, which is to never die. xxx